I Need Your Help, Please

It can be difficult to ask “I Need Your Help” to others. Why?

There could be many reasons:

1. You don’t want to be a bother.
2. You don’t feel you deserve it.
3. You are superwoman or superman – and you just don’t need it!
4. Maybe you don’t want to end up owing someone a favor in return?
5. You waited too long to ask for help and now it is too late. How could you recruit help in the last second for something you thought you could handle on your own?
6. You have asked for help before, and it didn’t go well.
7. It could “look bad” to ask for help. You might look weak, selfish, needy, incompetent or … who knows what other thing you might come up with (me, too).
8. You fear that someone might say “no” to your request for help.
9. You fear that someone will say “yes” to your request even though it is difficult or inconvenient for them to do.
10. You are too busy to even think about asking for help.

We Are a Social Species – That Is How We Survive and Thrive!

Humans dominate this earth. That is despite the fact that there are all kinds of animals that are stronger or faster than us. But we do have an advanced brain. We are able to communicate and coordinate among ourselves. We can work together and lure an animal into a trap even though that animal is stronger and faster than us.

Now, let’s move from those early hunting days to today. We still can communicate and coordinate – faster than ever in the history of mankind. We are a social species. That means helping each other is integral to our survival and thrival – our well-being.

I know we all know this. But do we live that way? Other people cannot read your mind. They don’t know what help you need. Yes, they might be too busy to think about what help people in their circle might need on a daily basis. But likely they are more than happy to help you if you reach out to them and ask for it.

I Am Asking For Your Help

Lead by example, Stephie?! Well, ok. One thing you could do to help me – help with the “You are brilliant! movement – is to share these Brilliance Nuggets. Send them to your friends and colleagues. Ask them to join our mailing list.

I know not every person will read the Brilliance Nuggets daily – that is fine. But you can’t imagine how awesome it is for me to hear that someone got something valuable from these Brilliance Nuggets. It keeps me going. Thank you!

I’m Curious

What kind of help do YOU need? Who could you ask? I invite you to practice the art of asking for help.

Dr. Stephie

P.S.: I appreciate you commenting and sharing this with others. Thank you!